I’m not a marriage counselor, neither an expert at the science of love. I’m just an ordinary woman who is also fascinated with the success stories of couples who celebrate their 50th wedding anniversaries and still kiss each other while holding hands! Many books have been written over the years to give relationship advise; but it seems that the more books are published, the more divorces go through court. So what exactly is the key to a happy marriage? And even more difficult - what is the purpose of marriage?
“To all the males out there, take note! Why is it that 90% of males think that females are their personal slaves? Everyone knows that Eve was the first to have sinned, but does that make females inferior? Cant’ it be that men are supposed to honor their wives as the weaker sex?
The Hebrew meaning of female is ‘one who is opened to receive.’ The meaning of male is ‘to remember/to move.’ To me that says that women are far more willing to receive (good or bad), and that they are not as strong as men to withstand certain things. Men are supposed to move things around to assist their wives, and to defend them against danger. Men can so easily influence women, but that does not make them the stronger sex. We always need to remember what the Bible teaches us about being married. A lot of men pray nonstop, but it is like their prayers are not answered. Why? “Husbands, in the same way, treat your wives with consideration as a delicate vessel, and with honor as fellow heirs of the gracious gift of life, so that your prayers will not be hindered.” – 1 Peter 3:7. Was male created for female, or female for male? Can the one survive without the other? “Nevertheless, woman is not independent of man, nor is man independent of woman. For as the woman originates from the man, so also man is born through the woman; and all things [whether male or female] originate from God as their Creator.” – 1 Corinthians 11:11-12.
So to all men out there, when last have you truly honored your Eve? Just spoiled her with a flower out of your own garden? Or surprised her with coffee (or even better, breakfast!) in bed? When last did you treat her as your equal and not as a subordinate? Too many men expect their wives to respect them, but do they really deserve it? Do they honor their wives enough to create a desire in them to show respect? The Bible is clear about prayers not being answered if a man does not honor his lady. Why do a lot of men still wonder why they are not achieving the success they believe they should? Take some time to study your relationship with your wife.
To all men – The Lord blessed you with a lifelong companion, a soulmate and a friend, all in one package! Treat your wife like the princess she is, because she is the daughter of the King!” (Author: Herman le Roux, Facebook page: Tetelestai.)
How nice it was to read something like this from a male perspective. Shortly after reading this, we received a teaching from Barry Bennet at Bible School, where he asked the question: Why do people get married? And although the obvious answer to the question was ‘because two people love each other’, he spent a whole lesson to give more clarity about the biblical principles of marriage (which is impossible to share here, because there is way too much information). But the one thing that really touched me, is his revelation on the heavenly purpose of marriage: Marriage is a representation of Christ and the church. “I am jealous for you with a godly jealousy because I have promised you to one husband, to present you as a pure virgin to Christ.” – 2 Corinthians 11:2. Jesus Christ committed Himself in every aspect to His bride. The church (you, me and every other believer) is the bride of Christ, the pure virgin who is waiting for her husband to return. Christ will never leave us nor forsake us. And this is exactly what marriage stand for. When we get married we enter into a covenant with our partner, as an earthly representation of the heavenly commitment between Christ and His bride. “Do you not know and understand that you [the church] are the temple of God, and that the Spirit of God dwells permanently in you [collectively and individually]? If anyone destroys the temple of God [corrupting it with false doctrine], God will destroy the destroyer; for the temple of God is holy (sacred), and that is what you are.” – 1 Corinthians 3:16-17. As the church we cannot enter into multiple relationships, we are the bride of only one Groom – Jesus Christ. And therefor as people of this world, we cannot enter into multiple relationships with different people. It is a covenant between only one male and one female.
After an intense teaching on marriage, Barry ended his lesson with the exact same words that Herman said: Husbands need to bless their wives (honor their Eves!).
A better relationship with Jesus Christ will result in a better and healthier marriage!
Hope the sharing of these two messages from two different people, have blessed you as much as it blessed me. And although this is not the Alpha and the Omega on marriage advice, the key to any successful relationship is Jesus Christ.
May you all have a wonderful Mother’s Day!
Blessings
Yolandi
The Hebrew meaning of female is ‘one who is opened to receive.’ The meaning of male is ‘to remember/to move.’ To me that says that women are far more willing to receive (good or bad), and that they are not as strong as men to withstand certain things. Men are supposed to move things around to assist their wives, and to defend them against danger. Men can so easily influence women, but that does not make them the stronger sex. We always need to remember what the Bible teaches us about being married. A lot of men pray nonstop, but it is like their prayers are not answered. Why? “Husbands, in the same way, treat your wives with consideration as a delicate vessel, and with honor as fellow heirs of the gracious gift of life, so that your prayers will not be hindered.” – 1 Peter 3:7. Was male created for female, or female for male? Can the one survive without the other? “Nevertheless, woman is not independent of man, nor is man independent of woman. For as the woman originates from the man, so also man is born through the woman; and all things [whether male or female] originate from God as their Creator.” – 1 Corinthians 11:11-12.
So to all men out there, when last have you truly honored your Eve? Just spoiled her with a flower out of your own garden? Or surprised her with coffee (or even better, breakfast!) in bed? When last did you treat her as your equal and not as a subordinate? Too many men expect their wives to respect them, but do they really deserve it? Do they honor their wives enough to create a desire in them to show respect? The Bible is clear about prayers not being answered if a man does not honor his lady. Why do a lot of men still wonder why they are not achieving the success they believe they should? Take some time to study your relationship with your wife.
To all men – The Lord blessed you with a lifelong companion, a soulmate and a friend, all in one package! Treat your wife like the princess she is, because she is the daughter of the King!” (Author: Herman le Roux, Facebook page: Tetelestai.)
How nice it was to read something like this from a male perspective. Shortly after reading this, we received a teaching from Barry Bennet at Bible School, where he asked the question: Why do people get married? And although the obvious answer to the question was ‘because two people love each other’, he spent a whole lesson to give more clarity about the biblical principles of marriage (which is impossible to share here, because there is way too much information). But the one thing that really touched me, is his revelation on the heavenly purpose of marriage: Marriage is a representation of Christ and the church. “I am jealous for you with a godly jealousy because I have promised you to one husband, to present you as a pure virgin to Christ.” – 2 Corinthians 11:2. Jesus Christ committed Himself in every aspect to His bride. The church (you, me and every other believer) is the bride of Christ, the pure virgin who is waiting for her husband to return. Christ will never leave us nor forsake us. And this is exactly what marriage stand for. When we get married we enter into a covenant with our partner, as an earthly representation of the heavenly commitment between Christ and His bride. “Do you not know and understand that you [the church] are the temple of God, and that the Spirit of God dwells permanently in you [collectively and individually]? If anyone destroys the temple of God [corrupting it with false doctrine], God will destroy the destroyer; for the temple of God is holy (sacred), and that is what you are.” – 1 Corinthians 3:16-17. As the church we cannot enter into multiple relationships, we are the bride of only one Groom – Jesus Christ. And therefor as people of this world, we cannot enter into multiple relationships with different people. It is a covenant between only one male and one female.
After an intense teaching on marriage, Barry ended his lesson with the exact same words that Herman said: Husbands need to bless their wives (honor their Eves!).
A better relationship with Jesus Christ will result in a better and healthier marriage!
Hope the sharing of these two messages from two different people, have blessed you as much as it blessed me. And although this is not the Alpha and the Omega on marriage advice, the key to any successful relationship is Jesus Christ.
May you all have a wonderful Mother’s Day!
Blessings
Yolandi